Every human being is prone to self-pity. We are born self-centered, with a strong urge to protect ourselves and our “rights.”
When we tell ourselves that life has not treated us fairly, or we don’t deserve something that has happened to us, we fall into self-pity.
Self-pity causes us to sulk, pout, lash out, and obsess over our hurts–real or perceived. Interestingly enough, at the heart of self-pity is a false belief that God and life have somehow treated us unfairly. Where do we get off thinking God mistreated us?
Frankly, the biggest clue that self-pity is not of God is the word self. Any time we are focused on ourselves, other than for the purpose of self-reflection and repentance, we are acting out of our flesh. When Self is dominant, God is not.